Navigating the devastating loss of a baby is the hardest thing a parent can experience. As a labor and delivery nurse, I remember each and every one of my precious mamas who have experienced the loss of a child. Mother’s Day can be an isolating and heartbreaking time for grieving parents. Consider letting your grieving friend or family know how much you love them and remember what they’ve gone through with one of these gifts for moms who lost a baby.
The Truth About Pregnancy Loss and Miscarriage
As a labor and delivery nurse, I have been the person alongside the parents experiencing the loss of a baby. When I first took on the role of an L&D nurse, I wasn’t sure how to navigate stillbirth situations. It is such a traumatic thing for a woman to go through and something that they will never forget.
My biggest fear was not being there for my patient in the way that they needed me to be during their difficult time. I wasn’t sure what to say or how to comfort them. I’ll never forget what my manager told me the day I took my first fetal demise patient:
“There is nothing that you can say that will make this ok for her. So all you need to do is help her survive this day”.
This is good advice. You will never have the right words. Nothing you say to a grieving parent is going to make it better. But letting them know that they have your love and support can make all the difference.
A Thoughtful Gift During a Difficult Time
Over the years I have had many loved ones who have lost a baby to miscarriage and it can be very debilitating to know how to be a good friend during that time. Everyone is different in the way they process a miscarriage or the loss of a child. It is undoubtedly the hardest thing you can experience as a mama.
An over-arching thing I’ve heard over the years is many people appreciate their friends and family remembering their little ones. Selecting gifts for moms who lost a baby may feel awkward or intimidating but for most people, it can be very therapeutic to know that their baby mattered to a lot of people!
What To Do For Someone Experiencing a Miscarriage
Do something. If you have a friend or family member experiencing a loss, it can be hard to know how to be there for them…The right answer to this question is… DO SOMETHING. There is nothing more isolating than experiencing a life-altering event alone. Make sure that you text them, write a letter, send a card, send flowers, send food… Just do something.
Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss Gifts For Moms Who Lost a Baby:
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The following is a list of suggestions for meaningful gifts for moms who lost a baby. Please keep in mind that everyone is different in the way they process pregnancy loss. Some people may not be ready to have a memento that reminds them of the baby. Others may prefer a self-care gift or a door-dash gift card so they don’t have to cook. Use this list of gifts for moms who lost a baby as a guide but always put your loved one’s preferences first.
Forget me nots are a flower that symbolizes the loss of a child. They are traditionally given in remembrance of a miscarriage or stillbirth. This beautiful gift is a great way for grieving parents to commemorate their child. A bouquet of flowers is always an option too, however, some people discourage bringing flowers after a death in the family. Ask if flowers are appropriate during this time before purchasing. Also, check the growth zones in your area before purchasing.
2. 1-in-4 Necklace- $41
This is a super meaningful gift, especially coming from a fellow miscarriage mama… 1 in 4 women have experienced miscarriage and pregnancy loss in their lives. This beautiful memorial necklace symbolizes the bond of solidarity and that they are not alone. I personally think this beautiful necklace would be more meaningful if the gift-giver had also experienced a pregnancy loss.
Many parents say they feel most connected to their angel baby when they are out in the calm of nature. This beautiful wind chime memorial gift will be a soft and gentle reminder that their baby is safe and happy.
Grieving mamas often want to spend a lot of time at home, wrapped up in a cozy blanket and letting themselves feel how they need to feel. Gift baskets are a great option to help them relax in comfort. This sweet and cozy gift box includes tea, fuzzy socks, a candle, a succulent, and a journal.
5. Baby’s Breath Necklace (Multiple Miscarriages)
Having a miscarriage is such a difficult thing for a woman to experience but the sad truth is that many women have multiple miscarriages in their lifetime. This beautiful baby’s breath memorial jewelry necklace is customizable to commemorate the number of losses experienced.
Even if it’s not something they put out on display, many parents will appreciate having a little memento of their sweet little one to take out and look at from time to time. These sweet little peg dolls have forget-me-not flowers painted on the front.
Experiencing a stillbirth or loss of a baby to SIDS is an unimaginable tragedy. Many parents look back on the experience and wish they had more memories of that day to commemorate and validate their grief. Memorial prints like this customizable poster image of an “angel baby” with their child’s name and date of birth is a comforting reminder that their sweet little one is safe in heaven.
Dads experience a miscarriage in a very different but very real way. This sweet family portrait lets them know you are thinking of them along with Mama. This is a download and the frame is sold separately.
This sweet spa box is the perfect gift for a mama experiencing a tough time. This lavender-scented box of bath bombs, salts, soap, and lotion will help her relax and heal.
A simple framed quote about their angel baby is the perfect choice for a gift. Here is a link to 3 FREE miscarriage memento downloads. These prints are a beautiful gesture to show a friend or loved one that you care. I recommend printing 5×7 size on cardstock and purchasing a simple picture frame to go with it. These sweet quotes are gentle reminders to grieving parents that their little one was and is loved.
FAQ About Pregnancy Loss:
What do you get a mom who lost her baby?
When a mother is experiencing the worst grief imaginable, it can be helpful to get her a small gift to let her know you are thinking of her. Some ideas are items commemorating the day they lost the baby, self-care items, and a gift certificate for Door-dash.
What to do for someone who lost their baby?
There are so many ways you can be there for a friend who is experiencing loss. Drop off a small gift bag of self-care items. If they have an older child, offer to babysit for the day so they can spend time grieving with their spouse. Offer to bring a meal and drop it off at the door so they don’t have to talk if they don’t want to. Offer to come over and help clean or do laundry.
What do you say to a grieving mother who lost her baby?
There is really nothing you can say to a grieving mother that will make the situation ok. She is experiencing literally the most painful experience a mother can feel. Simple reminders that she is loved, that you are there for her and that her baby is loved and not forgotten are helpful
What not to say to someone who has lost a baby?
There are several common phrases people say during times of loss that are definitely NOT HELPFUL.
“Everything happens for a reason”
“At least you know you can get pregnant”
“Are you going to try for another?”
“God only gives you what you can handle”
… Are all unhelpful sayings that make people feel more isolated and as if their grief doesn’t matter. That’s the last thing they need during a hard time. Steer clear of these phrases/responses.
What is an angel baby?
Many people who have lost a child refer to them as their angel babies. Typically this refers to babies lost to miscarriage or stillbirth.
Navigating Loss With a Friend
Remember, the best gift you can give is your time, your support, and your love.
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